Never Too Late

Why it’s Never too Late to be What You Always Wanted to Be
Many of us wanted to be amazing things when we were younger. Some of us wanted to be astronauts, some of us wanted to be rock stars and some of us wanted to be rock stars. Maybe you dreamed of owning your own business.
Then you reached your twenties and realized that achieving those dreams was harder than you thought and that you needed money faster. So you start working a regular job in the meantime. Then you reach 30 and have a spouse and kids. Then you reach 40 and realize you’re old and tired. And in short, you realize that you’re never going to be that thing you always wanted to be.
Dreams are for younger people, right?
Why Dreams Get Easier, the Older You Get
This is certainly the stance taken by many people but in reality the opposite should be true. As long as you hold on to those dreams, they actually often become more attainable the older you get.
Why? For starters, being older gives you more experience and means you’re going to have a better idea of how to go after what you want. Then there’s the fact that you’ll have had longer to accumulate useful assets. That includes money – you’ll have more funds to put behind you – but also other intangible and tangible assets such as a property, contacts, a better CV etc.
And if you’re retired, or if your children have moved away from home, then you’ll have more time as well.
And if you combine all that with a savvy knowledge of how to leverage your age, there’s no reason that you can’t get things done even when you’re older.
Some Examples…
Many people want to be actors for example but never get around to it when they’re younger. When you’re older however, you have the option of applying to appear as an extra in films and to play bit parts. You have the time now to attend and the older you are, the more in-demand you’ll find you become for smaller roles. Build up a CV and who knows!
Or you could start a YouTube channel. Silver surfers make up a massive proportion of the web and there isn’t as much content there for them. You could make a fitness YouTube channel for over 50s for example and it would likely be a huge hit.
You’ll likewise have more time to write books and more time to pursue hobbies. And if you can’t become an astronaut (admittedly unlikely), then how about signing up for a Virgin Galactic flight? If you can’t be a football player, you could certainly maybe be a coach, or join an older team.
And this post isn’t just for people in their 80s. It applies to those in their 40s too. Did you know that the average age for successful startup founders is 40? Did you know that you’re twice as likely to start a successful business at the age of 55 as you are at 20-34?
Never give up.

Controlling Anxiety During Stress

How to Control Anxiety During Stressful Moments

Imagine that you have an interview for a big job you want coming up. And imagine that said job interview is with someone very important and who has a reputation for being tough.

In the build up to this event, you’ll probably find yourself feeling very anxious and nervous. This will trigger the release of fight or flight hormones like adrenaline, cortisol and norepinephrine. As such, you’ll start shaking, you’ll start sweating, your pupils will dilate and your muscles will contract.

This stress response is designed to help us if ever we get into a physical confrontation or we need to run away. But when we’re in a situation like an interview or a date, it really doesn’t help.

So the question is, what can you do to overcome this and stay calm even in high pressured situations?

Luckily, there are a few methods that are known to work quite well…


The first thing to do is to remember to breathe. And don’t just breathe – breathe deeply. When you do this, you will be able to instantly engage your parasympathetic nervous system, which is responsible for the ‘rest and digest’ state that we can go into. This state is actually the exact opposite of fight or flight and it helps us to feel calmer and more relaxed.

The worst thing you can do when you start to panic is to breathe faster and more shallowly, as this just makes you more stressed and can eventually cause you pass out if things get really bad!

Lean Into It

Another tip? Don’t worry about being stressed. Too often, we get stressed and anxious and then try to fight it. Unfortunately, fighting stress is completely counterproductive as the more we fight, the more we raise our fight or flight response even more. Eventually this causes our heartrate to run more quickly, our muscles to contract more and for us to become even more tense.

At this point, you’re now stressed about being stressed!

So instead, the goal should be to help yourself accept the stress and recognize it for what it is. Stress makes you your strongest and most powerful. Instead of trying to fight it, instead just let it happen but give it a positive spin. This might mean thinking of your situation as a challenge, or it might mean thinking of an idol you know who has handled a similar situation well. Rise to the challenge and enjoy your body getting worked up ready to enhance your performance.

If you can do all this well, then you can eventually tap into enhanced performance without the feelings of dread or the crawling stomach that can come from regular stress. If you do this really well, then it can become a ‘flow state’ which is a state of heightened performance characterized by reduced activity in the frontal cortex.

So just concentrate on the task at hand, give it full focus, feel your body become more alert and toned and tell yourself: game on.

How to Sleep Better for Improved Cognitive Performance

How to Sleep Better for Improved Cognitive Performance

If you want to see an immediate upgrade to your physical and mental performance, then there is an incredibly simple and easy way to do so – improve your sleep.

A lot of people don’t recognize just how important sleep is for their brain function, their mood or even their physical strength. Sleep is when the body repairs from the damage caused during the day though and it is when your brain rejuvenates neurotransmitters and strengthens new connections. If you sleep well, then you will be more focussed, more alert, happier and more creative all at once.

So how can you go about enhancing your sleep for better cognitive performance?

Have a Set Bedtime

This isn’t easy to enforce but if you can try to get to bed at at least roughly the same time every day, then you’ll find that it has profound benefits for your brain function, mood and more. This is because the brain and body are designed to work in rhythms. We are beholden to our ‘circadian rhythm’ for example, which helps us to feel tired at the right time (before bed) and to wake up at the right time (when the sun rises). This is based not only on external cues (technically called ‘external zeitgebers’) but also on our internal biology (called ‘internal pacemakers’) such as the build up of adenosine in the brain.

If you can get into a rhythm then, your brain will be ready for bed when you hit the sack, resulting in a better night’s sleep and less ‘sleep inertia’ the next day.

Regulate Temperature

Getting your temperature right when you sleep is very important and can have a big impact on your quality of sleep. One thing that helps a great deal for example, is to take a warm bath just before bed. This will help to relax the muscles and the brain due to the warmth but it also encourages the body to better regulate its temperature as you sleep, preventing you from getting too hot or too cold.

To get the best night’s sleep, it is recommended that the environment around you be slightly cool. Open a window a jar and this will help to ensure that this is the case!

Have Some Downtime

Most important of all is to allow yourself to ‘wind down’ at the end of the day before you get to sleep. This means that you should try to spend at least about half an hour without using your smartphone for example and that you should avoid television and computer games as well. These things all produce light of a certain spectrum that will make the brain more alert and awake, while also triggering a stress response.

Instead, try reading for half an hour with a dim light. This will help you to start calming down and will encourage the production of the sleep hormone melatonin. Meanwhile, the reading will cause your eyes to get tired making it hard to keep them open!

Create Your Compelling Future

Create Your Compelling Future
Victor Frankl, psychologist and author of man’s search for meaning, said; “Everyone has his own specific vocation or mission in life; everyone must carry out a concrete assignment that demands fulfillment. Therein he cannot be replaced, nor can his life be repeated, thus, everyone’s task is unique as his specific opportunity to implement it.”
As a young boy I had a poster on the wall in my room. It was a picture of a very busy and crowded city street. The city was full of confusion: people everywhere, crowded streets, with signs and billboards. The words across the top of the poster ask the question, Why am I here?
My question to you is why are you here? What is your purpose on this earth? Maybe you’ve asked yourself that question before. Maybe you know your purpose but you’ve never made the decision to act on it. Peter Drucker, management consultant, educator, and author of management by objectives, says; “The best way to predict the future is to create it.” The majority of people never live a life of purpose because it takes hard work and discipline. Most people just settle for what comes along. They live the life of quiet desperation. They talk about what they should do and dream big dreams, but never go forward.

A life without action is a life without purpose. Success has been studied and researched for years. We have more information on success today than ever before and one outstanding similarity is that the winners in life all have a major definite purpose. You see, it’s your purpose that keeps you in a forward motion. Your purpose gives you momentum. We need to know that we are growing and making a contribution. Each time you reach a goal your self-esteem will grow and then you’ll build on that accomplishment, like an avalanche it will grow as it pushes forward. That’s why winners have goals and a major purpose for their life.
Tony Robbins, life coach and inspirational speaker on leading a successful life, says, “People are not lazy. They simply have impotent goals – that is, goals that do not inspire them.” Some people have a goal to get up and go to work. Go back home set down in front of the television, have a couple of beers and go to bed, only to do the same thing the next day and the next day and the next day. Like a washing machine that only washes on one cycle, they fall into a pattern of neglect — neglecting their inspiration. It only takes a moment to turn the dial, and increase the level of inspiration, or choose a small goal to snap your life out of the same wash cycle.
If you don’t have a major purpose in your life, you will always be bound under the power of the people who do. I believe that many people you find in hospitals, prisons, and in the court system are without a major definite purpose. Without purpose you have no compelling future to look forward to. Without a compelling future you give up on life and find yourself in a state of mind that’s not productive. And through the law of attraction and focus you attract more depression and more of the things you really don’t want.
“Far better is it to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs, even though checkered by failure…than to rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy nor suffer much, because they live in a gray twilight that knows not victory nor defeat.” ..Theodore Roosevelt
When you find your purpose you find who you are…. what you are…. and most importantly why you are! In the end it is not what you say or what you plan for. And it is not what you intend or what you hope for. It is What You Do that makes the difference. A life without action is a life without purpose. Live your life on purpose each day. Ask the question…why am I here? What talents, skills and abilities do you have that you can contribute to others in an eloquent way? Serve others and serve yourself.
R. Lynn Lane
Author of Never Ending Mojo ~ Speaker ~ Trainer

11 Great Reasons why Smiling makes us More Successful

“11 Great Reasons why Smiling makes us More Successful!”

First: Our smile shows others people that we are friendly.
If a stranger approached you and gained eye contact with you and then treated you to a broad smile you will have a fairly good idea that they are being friendly and certainly mean you no harm.

By contrast we would find it far more difficult to offer trust to the stranger that wears a scowl or unfriendly face features.

Second: A smile can make people happy.
When someone treats you to a smile, even a stranger, you usually smile back. For that moment you enjoy a flash of positive communication without saying a word. As you walk through a crowed area such as a main street you can do this hundreds times in a very short period of time.

When you smile at someone who is not already smiling and they smile back you have brought a moment of happiness into their lives which, who knows, could last all day.

Third: Smiling is infectious.
When you spend a lot in the company of someone who smiles a lot you will soon discover that their smile starts to wear off on you. It is hard not to return a smile; most of us do it at a subliminal level without thinking.

Fourth: Smiling can make you popular.
Which type of people do you prefer? A person that has a tired and listless face. An expression that may reflect their inner thoughts of boredom and worry? Or, would you prefer someone who is always smiling and shows that they have an enthusiastic passion for life.

I think for the majority of us the choice would be obvious!

Fifth: Smiling can help you to make new friends
In the same way few of us would choice a miserable person for a friend. Lets face it we all want someone who is going to be bubbly and a happy and positive.

Sixth: A smile is usually returned
When someone smiles back at you it make you feel good inside. You have just made a short but very positive communication and possibly the first step in the process of getting to know or making friends with someone new.

Seventh: Smiling makes you positive and happy inside.
When you smile it is hard to feel unhappy, negative or sad in anyway. Smiling gives you enthusiasm and drive, it is also habit forming.

Eight: A smile makes you look far more attractive.
You don’t see many celebrities or media personalities that are not smiling because if you did it is fairly certain that their popularity would quickly start to drop!

Ninth: Smiling also helps make you memorable to others!
Have you noticed that smiling people are usually far more memorable than those that are not? It is fact that you are 3 time more likely to remember the person that is smiling over the one that is wearing a negative or neutral features.

Tenth: Most importantly, smiling is good for your health!!!
When you are smiling you find whatever you are doing far easier. It releases stress, worry and tension that you may have built up throughout the day. Long term, developing the smiling habit will be one of the smartest things that you can do to improve most aspects of your life.

Eleventh: The effects of smiling can last for hours
Whatever problems and challenges you have in your life, smiling temporary puts them and hold. For a while you forget the problems and become positive, and while you are in a positive state you have far more potential and power to advance and improve your life.

Lastly: Smiling is FREE!
You are never going to run short of smiles and will always have enough to go around. When you weigh up the positive points of smiling it is a no brainer decision to do far more smiling and share them with as many people as possible.

Keep smiling.

The Right Attitude

The Right Attitudes to Achieve Your Goals

If you want to be truly successful in how you achieve your goals, then you need to harbour the right habits and attitudes that will keep you on track. There are a number of good traits you have to keep for life to discover that more opportunities and good things are bound to happen, if only you allow these. Here are some of the features that great people had.

Being Industrious

Hard work always pays off. There is no single famous individual person in history who achieved several goals in life without working it off. Being industrious means working harder than anyone else, studying more than anyone else and even suffering more than anyone else. You have to understand the importance of delayed gratification as you work towards your ultimate goal. To begin hard work, you can begin by fixing your schedule, writing down tasks and functions of the day and finding the right people and resources that can assist you. Keep in mind that you have to be as independent as possible to finish more in the long term.

Discipline and Consistency

Discipline is what separates the leaders from the followers. If you truly want to make changes in your life, you have to understand doing things even if you do not want to at times, and maintaining excellent quality and optimum performance each time. Being consistent is intertwined with patience, wherein you continue performing well, regardless of the situations and hindrances, to render the results you want in the end.

Discipline and consistency are also interrelated, in the sense that discipline breeds consistency. If you continue practicing good habits and sticking to the functions that lead to your main goal, you will find it easier to do this as time passes. You will change as an entire person and experience the opportunities that come with being dedicated.


Problems are a part of every man’s life, but it is the resilient person who always prevails and achieves their goals. You need to learn from your past mistakes and convert these into more productive actions the next time. Learn to pick yourself up after each fall and put in double effort to become better. Some of the most successful people, as well as those who truly left a mark in history are known to have faced big difficulties and resentment before they let others understand their own way of doing things.


You need to stay positive about your situation, regardless of the problems that you face. It is vital that you stay optimistic and always believe that you will get to your goal, no matter what. If you tell yourself that you will reach it sooner, chances are you will. It might help to believe in the powers of the Universal Law of Attraction which draws opportunities toward you just the way you intend it to, and in the right intensity as you desired.


Some goals are very big and will take time to accomplish. Do not allow yourself to think that some goals are just too huge to be possible. Be specific and set goals that are attainable to your current situation and start working to achieve these. You can break it down into smaller tasks that are much easier to do within the given time frame that you have.